Similar to Love Languages, Everyone Has Their Own Route of Safety, and Knowing Them Is Key
Love languages and apology languages are undoubtedly interesting and helpful, as they can show you how to treat others in ways that will make them feel the best, but have you heard of the "routes of safety" before? Created by psychotherapist Jake Ernst, MSW, RSW, they're basically trauma-informed love languages that can help you build more intimate connections with others. They explain the different ways we feel safe based on our experiences, and they can depend on our internal capacity, other people, or what we can control externally.
"I created the Routes of Safety model in order to acknowledge the ways that we fluidly access safety," Ernst wrote in an Instagram caption. "The ways we get access to safety depends largely on our lived experiences; our early emotional experiences; the trauma we've experienced and inherited, and our current relationships with ourselves and others shape how we experience safety."
To have a clearer understanding of what makes you and your loved ones feel safest, keep reading for more information from his Instagram post on each route of safety. Through this knowledge, you can help yourself and your loved ones feel more at ease.